In my last post, I talked about how hubby and I have got into this rut within our relationship. After a LOT of discussion, a few heated arguments, and tears, we finally decided we had to do something. So we have started 'date night'. This began last weekend. We decided to take off for the weekend to kick start our new adventure.
After doing some research, we decided to tour our local wineries. We live close to the Ozarks of Arkansas, so it wasn't too far from home. Baby steps, people, baby steps.
We hit about 6 wineries before noon. :) Then we headed to Mt. Magazine. It was so nice and peaceful there and we even saw a little armadillo having some lunch. We spent about an hour or so there before heading back to Fort Smith, Ark for the night.
Once at the hotel, we had a battle of sinking ships!! Battleship, y'all!! Minds out of the gutters. This was a very close game and hubby kicked my ships right into the ocean! Then, we decided to get some dinner, but being a Saturday night, every place had a line a mile long and a wait of at least 45 minutes. So we drove around and found a Village Inn...great food and the service was equally great! They have a peanut butter chocolate pie that is to DIE FOR! We split it and we both left with a smile on our faces.
The evening was still early so we decided to see a move, but by the time we got to the theater, everything had already started and I didn't want to wait until 11pm to see a movie. So, we went back to the hotel. We watched a little TV, and did a LOT of talking. We played Rummy and again, hubby stunk me out! Only won one hand. But it was fun.
The next morning, we head North to Springdale, Ark. We went to the Botanical Garden of the Ozarks which was pretty amazing considering it's Winter. It will be worth the drive back this Spring when everything is bloomed out and green. From there, we went to Bentonville, Ark. to see Crystal Bridges. It is massive!! We didn't get to see it all. Ran out of time, but we're planing to go back when we have all day to just explore.
Overall, we connected in ways I didn't think we could. The trip was much needed, not only for us as individuals, but as a couple. We are both a lot more attuned to each other. We're both a little more considerate towards each other. The tension in the air has thinned; it's still there, but it's not as thick.
One thing we did talk about is this "date night" thing. We both agree it's a great idea, but, not every week. We both agree it would get a little old after a while, and considering we live in a rather small town, we'd run out of places to go and things to do if we did this every week. So, we're going to do it about twice a month and see how that goes. These are actual planned dates. We are also gonna do a little spur of the moments "lets get some coffee or pie" dates, as well.
I think every couple should have at least one date night a month, without kids. Just the two of you. After all, you dated before you were married, it should keep happening. That's what happened to us. We dated, we got married and the dating stopped. Couples need that time to be together with no conversations about home, work or the kids. I learned things about hubby this last weekend that I never knew!
Some family members have said that we're 'selfish' for doing this. Our son is 18 and he is okay with it and he understands. It's not like we're going on a trip every weekend without him. Matter of fact, we're planning a big trip at the end of May, beginning of June to go see the Civil War Battlefields in Prairie Grove, Ark. DS is looking forward to that, as are we. What they don't know is we talked to our son about all this before we decided to do it. He says, "Hey, I get it, mom...privacy, alone time, it's all good. Go, have fun." He stayed home, and played his battle games with his friends...and they had fun, too. It was a win-win for all.
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